So in the past couple of days I have been faced with multiple couples coming to me with various issues. All of them very serious and all of them very different. Each couple is facing problems that I wouldn't have seen coming. Some came to me as a friend, some came to me as a pastor but none came to me to "fix" their situations. They needed someone to listen to them.
The way I see it love is a choice. The feelings you get when you "fall in love" come and go as the relationship grows. What holds the relationship together is two people who are in it for the long haul. Seeing as I am single, that is easy for me to say. I'm aware that it would seem odd to some that anyone would come to me for anything having to do with relationships...but mainly I think it is because I will listen.
Too often we get caught up in wanting to fix people or fix their problems. Most times, they need someone to listen to them. I point people back to the truth...but I don't tell them what they need to do very often. They already know, they just need to process it.
So I guess this has been a lot to think about because over the years I have seen so many "good" marriages fail. So many good people make dumb choices and be selfish. I know that marriages can last, I know they were designed to function correctly...I just don't see enough of that going on around me. I will do my best to lead by example when the time comes. I'm just not trying to rush into anything. No reason to push something that is only going to make things harder, you know?
